Thursday, December 3, 2020

Honesty is Key to Recovery: Sharing With Others

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At Hemet Valley Recovery Center & Sage Retreat, we hope you had a safe and sober Thanksgiving. Navigating major holidays in recovery isn't easy. If you made it through the day without picking up a drink or drug, be proud of the accomplishment. Conversely, please reach out for help if you slipped last week and experienced a relapse. 

 

Getting back on the path of recovery following a relapse takes tremendous courage. Humbling yourself and identifying as a newcomer again is challenging, but it's vital to survival. An inability to admit that you used will further complicate your life and result in addiction taking control. When left unchecked, there is no telling where your disease will take you. 

 

Unfortunately, relapse is a common occurrence between Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve. While this year is different from any other year because of COVID-19, the holiday season is always associated with heavy alcohol use. The pandemic will mean fewer parties in the coming weeks, which could diminish your temptation to drink or use. Still, navigating recovery could be challenging for you due to the stress that accompanies this emotional time of the year. 

 

Do everything in your power to be open and honest with your sponsor and your support network. Being truthful about what you're going through internally is essential at any time of the year, but especially during the holiday season. 

 

Working a program teaches men and women about the value of being forthright and truthful. You have probably heard your peers say that recovery demands honesty. Those who cannot be honest with themselves and others cannot make progress and achieve long-term recovery. 

 

Honesty is Key to Recovery

 

Lasting recovery depends on keeping a finger on your spiritual pulse. Recovery also demands unity and connection with other men and women. While it's challenging to talk about specific aspects of your life, it is essential to making progress and keeping your program intact. 

 

Make a point of journaling what you are experiencing each day, then discuss your challenges in a meeting or with a trusted confidant. Being honest with others helps you be honest with yourself. When you're honest with yourself, it's a sign of progress. 

 

Those who are dishonest with themselves are reverting to old ways of thinking. Dishonesty puts you at risk of slipping back into an addictive mindset, bringing about old behaviors. It's worth remembering that relapse happens long before the first drink or drug. Fortunately, there is ample opportunity to correct course before addiction re-exerts control over your life. 

 

Establishing and sticking to a routine such as daily prayer, meditation, and meetings will help you be more open and honest. The more you talk about your life with others, the easier it becomes to discuss things in your life that may lead you down a path toward relapse. It will help you identify if you're close-minded or judgmental about something or someone, such as looking for the differences instead of the similarities. 

 

It would be best if you shared with another anything that arises in your life that could be the impetus for old ways of thinking or behaviors. The sooner you open up, the quicker you will find a way back on track. It doesn't pay to keep your cards close to your chest in recovery. 

 

Do not be discouraged if you do not feel comfortable sharing about certain things in a meeting. If you have the courage to share your difficulties with a trusted peer, such as a sponsor, then there is nothing you cannot overcome. Never lose sight of the value of honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness! 

 

Chemical Dependency Recovery Hospital

 

Please contact HVRC if you or a loved one is battling alcohol or substance use disorder. Our license as a Chemical Dependency Recovery Hospital allows us to provide more services than the average addiction treatment center. We continue to help men and women get on the path toward recovery while strictly adhering to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention COVID-19 guidelines. The health and safety of each client is our number one priority.

Wednesday, November 25, 2020

Thanksgiving in Recovery: Staying Connected

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Thanksgiving is tomorrow, which marks the beginning of the holiday season. This time of year can be taxing for men and women in recovery for a number of reasons. Stress can lead to symptoms of anxiety and depression; it's crucial to cope with unwanted feelings and emotions in a healthy way. 

 

Many people in recovery need to double down on the program between Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve. Most individuals associate holidays with alcohol use, and it's critical to do everything in one's power to abstain. One must be mindful of their relapse triggers and avoid situations that might be an impetus for drinking or using. 

 

The 2020 holiday season is going to be different for tens of millions of Americans due to COVID-19. Public health agency guidelines recommend that every American stay at home this Thanksgiving—celebrating the holiday only with people in one's household. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) cautions against traveling or avoiding gatherings with people who do not live with you. 

 

If you have plans to spend the holiday with individuals you do not live with, the CDC recommends that you wear a mask and, if you can, bring your own food and utensils. It's also vital to practice social distancing—6 feet or about two arm lengths from others. Be sure to wash your hands or use hand sanitizer regularly. 

 

Adhering to CDC guidelines could find you spending Thanksgiving by yourself. With that in mind, there is a high potential for feeling lonely because of isolation. Hopefully, everyone in recovery has a plan for combating loneliness tomorrow. 

 

Staying Connected With Your Peers In Recovery

 

If you plan to spend Thanksgiving at home alone, then it's essential that you take steps to connect with the recovery community. There will be no shortage of meetings you can attend virtually. You may decide to participate in multiple meetings tomorrow to share your experience, strength, and hope. Making an effort to attend meetings will break up your day and help you get out of your head. 

 

"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." —JFK— 

 

Tomorrow, it will be helpful to maintain an attitude of gratitude. Take time to express your thanks by picking up the phone and reaching out to members of your deep bench of support. Naturally, your support network is critical to achieving lasting recovery. You are not alone and you cannot do this alone; let others know how grateful you are to have them in your life. 

 

No matter how you choose to spend your day tomorrow, your recovery must always be your first priority. Balance the holiday with your recovery needs. If you find yourself in a situation that feels unsafe or something triggers you, please pick up the phone and reach out to your support network. It's also vital to get to a safe place; there is no shame in leaving a gathering early. 

 

Thanksgiving 2020 is bound to be unlike any other before it; remember, we are all in this together. At Hemet Valley Recovery Center & Sage Retreat, we wish everyone a happy Thanksgiving. We hope that you put your recovery first tomorrow; if you do, then you will make it through the holiday clean and sober.

 

California Addiction Recovery Center

 

We invite any adult struggling with drugs or alcohol to reach out to Hemet Valley Recovery Center & Sage Retreat for support. HVRC is a chemical dependency rehabilitation hospital. We can help you or a loved one get on the path toward lasting recovery. Take the first step by calling 866-273-0868 to speak to our highly trained admissions staff.

Thursday, November 19, 2020

Marijuana Opportunity Reinvestment and Expungement Act

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More and more Americans favor legalizing marijuana, a drug that is illegal on the Federal level. Tens of millions of adults consider cannabis use safe, as evidenced by the number of states that have legalized medical and recreational marijuana use. 

 

Earlier this month, more states passed cannabis initiatives, including conservative states like Montana and Mississippi, according to the AP. Voters in the former approved recreational marijuana, whereas the latter voted in favor of a medical cannabis program. 

 

Recreational cannabis use is now legal in 15 states, and medical marijuana is allowed in 36. A new Gallup poll shows that 68 percent of Americans are in favor of legalizing cannabis federally. The significant number of supporters – double the approval rate from 2003 – could mean that marijuana will become legal in the near future. 

 

Marijuana Opportunity Reinvestment and Expungement (MORE) Act

 

The U.S. House of Representatives will soon vote on the Marijuana Opportunity Reinvestment and Expungement (MORE) Act, according to House Majority Leader Steny Hoyer. In a letter to his colleagues, Hoyer wrote:

"The House will vote on the MORE Act to decriminalize cannabis and expunge convictions for non-violent cannabis offenses that have prevented many Americans from getting jobs, applying for credit and loans, and accessing opportunities that make it possible to get ahead in our economy."

If legislators approve the MORE Act, it would be one step closer to ending a nearly century-long prohibition disproportionately affecting minority and impoverished Americans. Reps. Barbara Lee (D-CA) and Earl Blumenauer (D-OR), co-chairs of the Congressional Cannabis Caucus, said: 

 

"One of the biggest winners of the 2020 election was cannabis reform. Americans in five very different states voted overwhelmingly to liberalize their cannabis policies, and it is clearer than ever that the American people are demanding a change to outdated cannabis laws." 

 

Cannabis Use Disorder in America

 

Approximately 4.1 million American adults over the age of 12 had a cannabis use disorder in 2017. According to the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, the majority of such individuals were between the ages of 12 and 25. 

 

"Cannabis use disorders are often associated with dependence—in which a person feels withdrawal symptoms when not taking the drug. People who use marijuana often report irritability, mood and sleep difficulties, decreased appetite, cravings, restlessness, and/or various forms of physical discomfort that peak within the first week after quitting and last up to two weeks," said Nora Volkow, M.D., the director of the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA). "When dependence and other factors escalate to cannabis use disorder, a person cannot stop using the drug even though it interferes with many aspects of his or her life." 

 

Many men and women seek addiction treatment for cannabis use each year. Marijuana causes problems in many people's lives, and such individuals are encouraged to seek evidence-based addiction treatment. Even though a drug is legalized doesn't mean that it's safe for everyone. It will be interesting to see how the House votes on the MORE Act; we will continue to follow the legislation closely.

 

California Addiction Treatment Center

 

Please contact Hemet Valley Recovery Center & Sage Retreat if you are battling with cannabis use disorder. We can help you break the cycle of addiction and show you how to lead a life in recovery. Please call 866-273-0868 to learn more about our programs and services.

Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Suicide and Substance Use Disorders Among Veterans

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Veterans Day is a time to acknowledge the service of the brave men and women who served in our country and overseas. We cannot thank such individuals enough for their bravery. During Veterans Day 2020, we would also like to draw your attention to some startling statistics. 

 

Hopefully, you are aware that veterans are some of the most vulnerable Americans. Those who have served in combat are at a significant risk of struggling with behavioral and mental health disorders. Many turn to drugs and alcohol to cope with life; some struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, and anxiety. 

 

About one in 10 veterans returning from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan seen in a Veterans Administration (VA) hospital have a problem with alcohol or other drugs, according to the National Center for PTSD. More than two of 10 veterans with PTSD also have a substance use disorder (SUD), according to the National Center for PTSD. 

 

Almost one out of every three veterans seeking treatment for SUD also has PTSD. A new report from the VA reveals that nearly 20 veterans a day commit suicide. Those who take their own life are often struggling with mental illness. Many have been diagnosed with mental health conditions at the time of their death. 

 

Suicide and Substance Use Disorders Among Veterans

 

The VA Office of Mental Health and Suicide Prevention reports that among veterans who died by suicide in 2017, 58.7 percent had a diagnosed a mental health or substance use disorder in 2016 or 2017. 

 

In 2017, patients with any mental health or substance use disorder diagnosis had a suicide rate of 56.9 per 100,000. Suicide rates were highest among Veteran VHA patients diagnosed with bipolar disorder and those diagnosed with opioid use disorder. 

 

Between 2005 to 2017, suicide among veterans in the 18-34 age group increased 76 percent. In 2019, veterans made up as much as 20 percent of all suicides nationally—about 1.5 times the rates for non-veterans. 

 

Treating Co-Occurring Mental Illness

 

The prevalence of addiction and co-occurring mental illness is exceptionally high among veterans. However, those who struggle with PTSD and addiction can and do recover. With help, a fulfilling and productive life in recovery is possible. 

 

Men and women who bravely serve in the United States military have options. Those with TRICARE coverage can access current, evidence-based addiction and mental health treatment like that offered at Hemet Valley Recovery Center and Sage Retreat. What’s more, TRICARE coverage extends to both service members and their families. 

 

Serving in the military is stressful for family members too. It can be traumatic worrying about the safety of a loved one. Anxiety, depression, PTSD, and substance abuse are common among the family members of active-duty and retired service members. Please reach out to HVRC if you or a loved one struggles with addiction, mental illness, or dual diagnosis. 

 

Our expert clinical and medical staff creates individualized treatment plans for each client. Please contact us today to speak with our admissions team at 866-273-0868. Each assessment is confidential and can help you determine which course of treatment is best for you or a loved one. TRICARE covers a long list of programs and services, including our track for military families and our Heroes Program.

Thursday, November 5, 2020

In Search of Me

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We do not have to live our lives based upon someone else’s story. We all have the power to rediscover, reflect and repair to create our own lives of recovery.


Many addicts and alcoholics have experienced a sense of loss of self from a very young age. As a result of experiencing an emotionally unsafe upbringing, many have had to adopt survival skills that required a halt in the exploration and nurturing of our true selves. This false identity gets adhered to well into adulthood, thus creating a deep void that becomes seemingly impossible to fill. 
 
As human beings, one tries many avenues to fill this void including through chemical and process addictions. Such addictions include drugs, alcohol, shopping, sex, pornography, gambling and eating disorders just to name a few. After a while, it is realized that the void remains constant and ever growing. 
 
Stopping the drugs, alcohol or behavioral addiction is just one part of recovery. Rediscovering and re-parenting one’s self is the other part, the crucial part. When done in conjunction with each other, long term substantial recovery is attainable and maintainable.

Fortunately, one never has to go through this journey alone. As one works on distinguishing between society’s creation of self and one’s own true self, the false stories that are adhered to as reality become more and more evident. This allows one to reprocess experiences and self-definitions and identify and establish one’s own genuine reality.

This journey begins with getting to know one’s self, ensuring that inner child that it is safe to emerge and explore. One starts by truly listening to that inner voice inside, that childlike voice, the innocent and vulnerable voice. Sitting still and truly actively listening; to listen without judgement, without labeling and without reprieve. Then, being mindfully still to learn who that voice belongs to and what that child within needs – identifying what that inner child needs, but never received, and being confident that one can finally provide all of it – the nurturing, the soothing, the unconditional love and the expression of joy, without fear. Allowing one’s self to explore, sit on the floor and play, blow bubbles, finger paint – reconnecting with the innocence that once was, but quickly became lost in the chaos and dysfunction of the world around.

Think of the mindset of a young toddler. That child’s main goal in life is to be happy – just be happy. That child forgives often, perceives the positive in everything, refrains from labeling and judging and finds wonder and adventure all throughout the day. This all happens prior to society instructing that child who he or she should be, THAT becomes the end of the innocence. 

The loyalty or false sense of security that some put within familial cultures and patterns of behaviors are what allow the toxic cycle of intergenerational trauma to continue. The loyalty must be to one’s true self. Empowerment must be sought in order to reach goals along the journey. And the pain and the fear that one will experience along this journey must be accepted and embraced in order to reach higher planes of growth, wellness and true love for self.

Written by Christina Wood, MS, LMFT, LAADC-CA