Sunday, November 7, 2010

Hemet Valley Recovery Center Annual Holiday Luncheon

Hemet Valley Recovery Center is proud to present:

“In the Spirit of Giving”

Annual Holiday Luncheon.

December 9th, 2010

11am – 1:30pm

Spencer’s Restaurant...At the Mountain

701 W. Baristo Rd.

Palm Springs, CA 92262

Hosted Valet Parking

This year the 1st Annual Joseph L. Galletta “Spirit of Recovery Award” will be presented, recognizing commitment and dedication in the field of addiction treatment.


This year, Shelter from the Storm will be honored. Shelter from the Storm is a women’s and children center for victims of domestic violence. If you are interested in attending the luncheon, please share in the Spirit of giving by bringing a gift of children's pajamas, helping to brighten the children's holiday at Shelter from the Storm.


RSVP required for menu selection (951) 791-4138 or martha.vasquez@valleyhealthsystem.com

Thank you and hope to see you there!

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Priorities...

This is a wonderful poem by Mother Teresa that encourages us to persevere even when times are difficult.  This speaks to all of the  patients and staff.  I wanted to share this with all of you, remember… Build anyways…

Priorities
By Mother Teresa

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives,
be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends, and some true enemies,
          succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you,
          be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight,
          build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they might be jealous,
          be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
          do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough,
          give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

You see, in the end, it is between you and God;
          it was never between you and them anyway.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

New Additions to our HVRC family!!

I would like to take this time to recognize a few new additions to our HVRC family!!!


Elizabeth Schneider, JD joins our team as the Vice President of Finance. Ms. Schneider is responsible for all financial planning, reporting and treasury functions.


Tony Frye and Jacque are Case Managers / Chemical Dependency Counselors for our Residential Treatment Center, Sage Retreat. Their many years of experience and fun loving sides make Sage Retreat a place all our patients want to stay!


Tina Schooley is a Per Diem Chemical Dependency Counselor that assists on both our detox unit and our residential unit. She is also so flexible that she covers for our Adjunctive Therapist as well!


Please take a look at our Recovery Staff page on our website to see more in depth biographies on each of our new team members!

Monday, September 27, 2010

Prayer for Higher Self

Below is a poem that we use regularly in our groups to remind our patients and ourselves what life is really about. We thank Marianne Williamson for the use of her poem!!

Dear God,

In this one moment I recognize that there is within me a perfect Self:
a Self that is not dysfunctional;
a Self that is not weak, but strong;
that is not limited, but unlimited;
that is not small, but huge;
that is not in pain, but at peace;
that is not faithless and scared, but all-knowing,
all loving, serene and calm.
I have been playing with the toys of death and weakness.
I have been playing at sickness and addiction.
I have been playing at dysfunction, limitation, and war.
I have been playing at hunger and violation of myself and others.
I have been playing with toys that are dangerous.
But I desire to play with the games of death no more.
In this moment, I ask You to release me from my destructive thinking.
I take up now the mantle of Your magnificence.
Through Your grace, I am good and innocent, strong and pure,
for this would You have me be.
The love that emanates from Your mind to me,
and from my mind to the minds of others, is a power so great.
Within its embrace, all my negativity shall turn to good,
all pain to peace, all fear to love.
I invoke Your light.
I receive Your heaven, which replaces my hell.
I do not look back.
I do not stop my eyes at the veil of horror that surrounds the world,
but rather I extend my vision to the possibilities for love.
I step out of my childhood into my adulthood;
out of my weakness into my strength,
out of my fear into my love,
out of my small self, into You.

Dear God,
Please make me new.

Amen

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Career Opportunities

Hi everyone!!

Please take time to check out our new Career Opportunities link on our website.

It will be updated as often as necessary.  Currently we have the following positions available!


Chemical Dependency Family Therapist


Conducts and coordinates all Family Week activities. Interviews clients and relatives to gather basic personal, social and medical data relevant to assessing the family's illness or dysfunction; collaborates and participates in multi-disciplinary team meetings and treatment planning sessions. Contacts families and provides them with family questionnaires and other appropriate assessment tools. During this process, assists families in understanding the nature of addictive disease, the need for family involvement in family groups and Family Week.

Skills/ Requirements
License or Certification
Possession of a valid license to practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist Preferred or licensed as a LCSW.  CADC required, MFT preferred.

Experience
  • Previous years of professional experience in chemical dependency treatment, working with adults and families
  •  A working knowledge of the 12-steps of AA
  • A clear understanding of the disease process of addiction



Per Diem LVN


Skills/ Requirements
  • Must have current LVN license
  • Must possess excellent assessment skills in the area of chemical/ alcohol withdrawal and accurately pass medications for up to 20 patients, many of whom also have medical problems.
  • Must demonstrate compassion and understanding while also being able to set appropriate limits.
  • Must have a comprehensive understanding of the chemical dependency disease process.



Per Diem CNA


Skills/ Requirements
  • Must have current CNA license
  • Some light driving duties required, a good DMV record a must!
  • Flexibility is extremely important for the right candidate
  • Unit Secretary experience a plus!!!
  • Must have compassion and exceptional assessment skills.



Contact Information
Stephanie Bush
HR Coordinator
371 N. Weston Place
Hemet, CA 92543
Fax:  951-765-4764
Stephanie.bush@valleyhealthsystem.com

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Healing

In our Treatment Team's daily meeting, our Director of Clinical Services reads our team an uplifting message. Last week she read us the following quote and it moved us all. I wanted to share it here as well...

"Difficulties prepare you for victory. Disease prepares you for health. Confusion prepares you for clarity. Hopelessness prepares you for purpose. Failure prepares you for success. Poverty prepares you for prosperity. Criticism prepares you for acceptance. Pain prepares you for joy. Anger prepares you for forgiveness. Ignorance prepares you for truth. Loneliness prepares you for love. Love prepares you to stand face to face with God. God is the one who sends whatever it is you need to be prepared. It is called healing. Only God can heal you."

Monday, August 23, 2010

Letters of Appreciation

This is an email that our Director of Business Services received from a former patient's family member.

"Dear Ms. Bellard:



Thank you for your time to explain the refund provided. The check in the amount of $250.00 will be sent back to patient Jean W., who is continuing in abstinence from alcohol abuse. We could not have gotten as far as we have without your efforts and the skilled professional services of Hemet Valley Recovery Center. God bless and keep you all.



Sincerely,



Christine McK., daughter of Jean W."

We always love to hear how our previous patients are and how they are enjoying their recovery! If you are a previous patient, let us know how you are doing!!!

Friday, August 6, 2010

Coining Thank You's

Here at Hemet Valley Recovery Center, when a patient has completed treatment we hold a Coining Ceremony for the individual. One particular patient wrote out her thank you's and has allowed me to share it here on our blog. I believe this is a testament to our program, hard work and her determination.

"It is with heartfelt gratitude that I have been able to complete the program here at HVRC.

"Today no longer a victim but a survivor."

I have to thank the treatment team, all of the counselors and nurses for helping me and Sherry, the Clinical Director for her support and help.

When I got here, I was just going to go through detox and here I am 90 days later. I wanted to leave more than once but I stayed and I have to thank Tori and Jacque for helping me to open myself to this process. I thought I knew something when I got here, but the "Set Aside Prayer" was given to me and it helped me to gain a new experience with this program.

I was terrified to expose myself and become vulnerable. I am so grateful that Tori and Jacque broke down my walls and I have been able to begin to scratch the surface of my life's core issues. These are the reasons I drank and used and couldn't STAY sober. Aside from my pain, I have been blessed to meet some beautiful souls here. People that love and just for being me and in spite of all my defects. I have to thank Teresa for being my sobriety sister from day one in detox until today. Our journey was meant for us to meet. Our lives are so similar. She knows me inside and out and still loves me even when I don't love myself.

Heather, I personally think you are amazing and want to thank you for all your patience and loving support. I'm grateful you came back here and we became friends. You are a bright spot in my life. You have many special gifts.

To my sister and nephew: You have always been by my side from that day when I was five until now. I thank you for opening your heart and home to me when I was so vulnerable and afraid. Thank you for loving me in spite of all my short comings. I am grateful for the opportunity to work on our relationship. I love you so much! You are the best gift I ever got!

To all my other HVRC family, detox, Sage, and outpatient buddies, I love and appreciate you all. There have been a lot of people that come and go also but I would be remiss if I didn't mention Jim K. He was a mentor, friend and always a gentleman. He taught me it's ok to be willful and may he rest in peace.

Thank you for my freedom from the bondage of pain. All my love..."

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

God help the Drunk

God help the Drunk

God reconcile and save,
because I already have one foot in the grave,
lying in a coma in a gutter of rain,
God can't you feel my pain,
Help me through this time of grief,
make it as beautiful as the shores of the Newport Reefs,
This is the last straw, I can't go on fighting,
Knowing that everyday I am dying,
Take the bottle out of my and,
Instead fill it up with sand,
Surfing is my passion and I can not lie,
But I can't surf anymore if I die,
So God, I ask you five me one more chance,
At a life worth living full of romance,
let me find love and peace of mind,
for that is something I've never been able to find,
God give me the wisdom to know the difference,
because my mind is clouded with nothing but indifference,
Show me another way, show me another way,
Let me go back sober to the Newport Bay,
With a surfboard under my arm ready to ride.
This ride of life, this ride of tides
Don't give up on me, I haven't given up on you,
Even though you make me feel very blue,
Thanks for your help, and thanks for listening,
For I will probably be drunk in the gutter whistling...

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Acceptance - Donna's First Step

Before a patient or resident is considered to have successfully completed treatment, they must complete a First Step assignment.  This is Donna's First Step assignment.  Donna is an older adult with chronic pain issues that was able successfully complete the program and enjoy recovery!

"I admit I was powerless over Xanax.  My life had become unmanageable.  The drug robbed me of gratitude and replaced them with fear.  I could no longer feel the gratefulness I had normally in my life of friends and family.
My sons became blurred in definition, my environment disintegrated into a lot of dust and there was the ever present hospital bed in the den.
The process of isolation began.  My nutrition and hydration was secondary to sleep.  I became socially withdrawn and sad.  The loneliness increased, but I was powerless to overcome it.  Showering was an exhaustive  process, and unsafe, as one of my legs became more numb, and weaker, following nerve damage.  So, cleanliness dropped off too.  I did occasionally sponge bathe.
As I grieved the loss of function of my leg and foot, the drug didn't allow me to process acceptance.  It promoted sleep and escape.  Communication was lost to me and I became an empty shell.  I began to tell untruths about myself to my sons.  I told them I was "okay" when I wasn't.  I lied to myself about my shakiness, that it wasn't drugs, I was just weak.  I lied about taking extra Xanax at night, because I needed to sleep.  I either told my friends I was okay or didn't answer the phone, and lied to my family doing the same.
There was hidden emotion regarding the hurt that my sons were feeling.  Parenting became lost to me.  I became lost to myself, my inner me, the once caring unselfish me.  I couldn't see the love or value of what I once was.  I had all the symptoms of depression and those of a user.  From lethargy to secrecy.  Being elderly with physical issues, back pain, numbness and nerve pain in my right leg and food complicated my case.  I decided to wear these afflictions like a badge of honor proudly.  I medicated them sufficiently, with a little extra for luck.  Anything to make the feeling of body loss go away.  If I didn't feel it, I didn't have it.  Fortunately, I was rescued by a family intervention.
The truth to sobriety began.  The road was painful through detox, but then an amazing thing happened...LIFE!  I started to feel, albeit slowly at first.  I began to learn about reasons and triggers of why I used.  Also, I began the learning process for gaining coping skills.  I was breaking the isolation, feeling again and slowly gaining lost abilities.  I learned to write again and my pen runneth over.  I have taken my First Step..."


Friday, July 2, 2010

Goodbye Letter to my Drug

This letter was composed by Donna, one of our patients who has successfully detoxed.

GOODBYE LETTER TO MY DRUG


Goodbye Xanax, you rotten, low, insidious, miserable pill,
how you  must have enjoyed watching me sink
deeper into depression, and become very ill.
I didn't know you were in a relationship with the devil.

You must have smiled with glee
 as your absorption took place at the cellular level.
No one warned me about this rather unknown response,
so mean,
As you built tolerance in deep layers over years of innocent dreams.

Oh, you gave a good nights sleep you see, that was the ruse.
It was your way of making sure I would always use.

You messed with my brain, I thought you only helped me to sleep.
When, in fact, you dulled all emotions, my joy, my very presence, any thoughts deep.
Over the years, unknown to the cognitive me, you crept.
Deeper into my brain, taking away strength and health as I slept.

Oh, you heightened me up at times, so I could feel pain.
Driving me to seek a drug called Norco to find relief again.
This I repeated three to four times a day.
While you continued to wash my self will away.

Into the pit of depression, I continued to fall,
You were happy to contribute, you were having a ball.
All the while, I lay in bed sleeping twelve to fourteen hours away.
Becoming numb to all sensation, and don't care if I see another day.
You did nothing to stop me feeling this dreaded gray.
Oh no, you couldn't, nor wouldn't stop your play.
It took an intervention, and a family who cared.
To seek help for this body and mine so - so impaired.

But you weren't done, you weren't about to leave so soon,
You stubbornly held affixed to my pleasure sites in the detox room.
As you were fed no more, you caused my body to shake and agitate.
I lay in tremulous agony, crying, you did nothing to help my state,
Not wanting to leave, you resisted for days and days, more then eight.
You wouldn't allow sleep, oh that would be a reprieve,
And you weren't about to allow comfort, if you had to leave.

You fought hard, but my self will began to emerge, where it belonged,
And little, by little, the old Donna arose to fight, first weak, than strong.
But you're not done, you buried in my memory, the peaceful sleep I gained.
Your hoping I'll remember, weaken, and begin to use again.
So on the nights, I struggle, to fall fast asleep,
I'll replace you with meditation, and breathing that is deep.
Where you once took away my gratitude's, and replace them with fears,
Now you are helpless, I've replaced you through many shedding tears.
never do I want to go through the agony of retreat,
You are done, you are sin, I wash you down the drain that goes out to the street.





Monday, June 28, 2010

From Our Talented Alumni

Our Alumni is always coming back to volunteer at our facility in the spirit of giving back.  One of our long term volunteers performed the following song that she wrote for one of our patients that was completing the program. 

"Capsules"

If love comes in capsules,
Let's take them all
If peace is a promise
Can we keep it all?
Go your way but keep your head
Cause if we're in pieces
Let's be in love instead

Bleed in the light
Let it all go by
Cause all your favorite colors
Sing tonight

I never thought I'd see you again
I never thought I'd find
That I love you
or
That I love

Peace Paradise
Let it all go by
Cause all your favorite colors
Scream tonight...

Hold on my love - your joy has come - Hold on!"

Lisa H.

Thank you Lisa!!!

Monday, June 21, 2010

Previous Patient's Want Ad for a Higher Power

Our patient Jim K. wrote this moving Want Ad for a Higher Power.  Jim recently passed away in his sleep, sober.  At HVRC, we are very grateful to be able to have spent time with Jim.  He touched all of our hearts and we hope to think we had an impact on his...

"WANTED: Higher Power
Alcoholic Addict in early recovery seeks long term relationship with Higher Power.  Respondents should be flexible and willing to work with and eager but inexperienced Alcoholic Addict.  Work hours may be quite long initially and likely frustrating, as mistakes will likely be made.  But I am quite sincere and learn quickly from errors in judgment.  Responding candidates need not guarantee miracles and need not reveal identity, but must be willing to be available on short notice.  Salary negotiable, but payment to be in the form of good deeds for others.

Response to Ad Placed for Higher Power
Dear Sir,  This is to introduce myself.  I am a Higher Power, with many years of experience.  Unfortunately my current and past client lists are confidential.  If I accept your positions, it will be subject to your faith in me and your level of trust in the process of recovery.  If I am to be effective it will largely depend upon your continuous commitment to sobriety, your willingness to do the next right thing and to do whatever it takes to remain in recovery.  Additionally, you much subordinate your will to my will, to not act rashly or without forethought or without regard to consequence.  Your initial commitment should be considered by you to last for your lifetime.

Dear Higher Power,  This is to advise you that I wish to employ you and to agree to all terms outlined in your response to my ad.  I sense that you are already in place and on duty.  Welcome!"

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Another Letter of Sobreity

Our program director received this email from a past patient last week...
"Dear Sherry:
It's been a little over a year since I got sober with you and your team, after 30 years of heavy drinking.  I have stayed sober with the tools I was given.  I know that you know, as well as any "normie" can, that these stories don't always have a happy ending, so I just wanted to let you know that I am happy, one day at a time.  All those "promises" are coming true, just as . . . well, as promised.  Each day is an adventure as my clarity broadens.
So once again, thank you, and everyone on your team, for helping me out of that morass of shame, for the many, many things I received at HVRC (including The Gift of Addiction).  And, by the way, you may recall me telling you that I had been at another treatment center 2 years before, and felt driven out after 12 days.  People who tour that program have no idea how much better rehab can be at a caring place like HVRC.  You said, "You are just where you are supposed to be."  So true.
Sincerely,
Jim H"

Friday, June 4, 2010

Letters of Gratitude....

The following is a letter that was sent to one of case managers...

"BB p. 64, How It Works
When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.

Hi Marc,
NO WAY telling you how to facilitate and counsel.  On the other hand, by being as flexible as you and HVRC were in variating from "straight" alcohol abuse counseling, you saved my life, literally, and most likely, some other poor soul who would have come in contact with me at a "bad time."

I knew exactly that I am alcoholic and drug dependent when I came to HVRC.  My problem, as you and I know, was my "thinker" was broke and I was not willing, open, or honest enough, without help, to admit it and become a willing participant in my recovery again.

My pride and ego needed to be broke down so I could let out the pain I was trying to lock in and put away in a "brain compartment."

God stepped in with a chain of events that had been ongoing for months, that led me to HVRC and gave you to me as my counselor.  He gave you, in my small estimation, to me with your conviction to your chosen profession and your courage to confront me on my issues.

Please accept this as  "pat on the back" and again, thank you.

Your friend in recovery,
Steve"

Friday, May 28, 2010

Letter of Hope for the Holiday Weekend

Below is a very touching Letter of Hope from a former patient to wish you all a safe, sober and fun Memorial Day weekend!!

"My name is Vince S. and being an alcoholic and drug addict is just the tip of the iceberg.  I have caused a tornado of destruction in my life.  You see, I am and have always been addicted to not wanting to feel.  I came from a privileged and successful home with loving parents and had every opportunity for a good life.  You see, this disease is not prejudice and if left untreated you and I will die for sure.

HVRC has been a blessing to me.  I am so much more than just an alcoholic and addict.  It truly is the "ism."  I not only have a physical disease of alcoholism but I am also terminally ill with a disease of the mind and soul.  I hope that you realize this is your time here because to me it is the key for me to live my life without dying from the addiction that has destroyed my life time and time again.  I honestly thought before that it really was the booze and drugs that I had a disease and that meant a physical state of body and brain.

Cunning, baffling and powerful.  I have a disease - the only disease that tells me I don't have one.  All so I can go out and drink again.  I am convinced -through the grace of God leading me to HVRC - that I am sick in the mind - and sick spiritually.  I am slowly but surely grasping and developing the skills it requires for me to live a life of true sobriety, gratefulness, humility, and humbleness.  And I will fall short - I am human.  However, I have accepted that I am no saint.  The important truth for me to remember on a daily basis that I must turn everything over to the care of God.

You will be given a set of physical, mental and spiritual tools here, but it is up to you to be willing to surrender first so you can receive them and then put them to use in your own recovery.

May God Bless you and keep you until then,

Vince S."

Friday, May 14, 2010

Future Keepers Gratitude

The following poem was written by one of our younger adults in our Future Keepers group.  Future Keepers is a group for all the patients/residents from the age of 18 to 30 to meet and discuss the issues surrounding chemical dependency that are pertinent to their age group.

"To HVRC

My home away from home, that it will forever be,
I will sincerely miss you, HVRC

You've made a man of Peter Pan
And made rainy days, shine again
Making no foes, only friends
That loved me for me, so I didn't have to pretend.

Tears I have shed, letting go of old resentments,
My life is now somewhat smooth with just a little resistance.
You gave me the knowledge of relapse prevention.
You also gave me true friends with lots of love, hugs and kisses.

I almost forgot to mention, you also gave me hope,
You untied the knot of my suicidal rope,
Never once was it around my throat, but always close by
Until you gave me the courage to tell it, "Good-bye."

So in my heart you will always be
My home away from home, the miracle making HVRC."

Friday, May 7, 2010

Mother's Letter of Hope...

Due to Mother's Day being this weekend, I would like to share a mother's Letter of Hope that she wrote during her stay at Hemet Valley Recovery Center.

"How I was before:
Before I came to HVRC, I was on my last leg.  With many tries to stop drinking on my own that I ended up failing.  I was a disgrace to my children and family.  I was on the very edge of imploding and total humiliation.  I stayed secluded from everyone I knew because of this addiction.  I hid bottles of alcohol in various and many places.  I felt very blessed that after a couple of years of drunkenness on my behalf, my family still loved me and totally supported my recovery.

Since in HVRC:
During my stay at HVRC, I have come to realize through excellent counseling and informative group sessions what a really blessed person I am.  I am alive, I know that I MUST use the awesome tools that I have been given to finish my recovery and stay sober.  I'm thankful to all my peers, my case manager and the staff!  They have all been very understanding, kind and greatly appreciated.  I can now be emotionally freed of all my demons and chains.  What a calm and complete feeling I have from this experience.  Most of all HVRC peers and staff have given me the gift to renew my stagnant relationship with God (my higher power) for which I am extremely excited about.

Hopes and Dreams
I know when I go home, I will have all the tools necessary to carry on a sober and healthy life with my family, friends, and especially myself.  I know my God loves me!  I will be back at church with a new light in my heart and soul.  My hope is that I will continue on this path and grow stronger each day, one day at a time with God's will to guide me.  I hope to be able to continue to understand my emotions, needs, and feeling and not to act on any of them, take the time to think them out and make the appropriate decision necessary to live a long and healthy life, to see my children get married, to meet and know my grandchildren and great grandchildren, to continue to love and be loved by my family and children.  I have dreamed many nights of acquiring a job that will always keep me busy, pays decently, with the ability to move up in the company.  A job where I can serve, help, and give back to those in need.  I know this will come to me in time.  I prayed on this many times.  let go and let GOD and BELIEVE!!

Jamie"

Friday, April 30, 2010

Quotes of Hope

The following quotes were written by previous patients to explain their experience with Hemet Valley Recovery Center....  Enjoy!!

Thank you for giving me life!!! I would say for giving me life back, but I never had life this good before, so I feel that you guys gave me life... Thank you from the bottom of my heart...my wife and daughters also say thank you... I have a choice today and I choose life...
With Love,
Joey

HVRC has been a blessing to me.  You are given a set of physical, mental, and spiritual tools here, but it is up to you to be willing to surrender first so you can receive them and then put them to use in your own recovery.
May God Bless you and keep you until then.
Vince S.

Overall, I'm glad I came to Hemet Valley Recovery Center, and I am going to make it this time thanks to the quality of staff and patients.
Dave H.

You were the first to see right through me.  For that I thank you.  You showed me that there was a light I had never seen before.  Now I know it can be reached if I want it,
Sincerely,
Andrea K.

I checked out today and now feel gratitude to all the staff and the new friends I have met at HVRC.  I believe that my life was saved and my heart is open again.
Marc C.

In short, I grew out of who I was - a hopeless addict - and began to blossom into who I was always meant to be: someone who wants to thrive and be counted as somebody, someone who can and will make a difference in life and in the lives of others, even at the age of 52.
Laurie L,

During my stay at HVRC, I have come to realize through excellent counseling and informative group sessions what a really blessed person I am.  I am alive, I know that I MUST use that awesome tools that I have been given to finish my recovery and stay sober.
Jamie


Have a wonderful weekend!!!!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Perpetual Quietness of Heart

Our Program Director shared this with the Treatment Team and it moved us all.  So, I wanted to share it with all of you!!

Perpetual Quietness of Heart

Humility is perpetual quietness of heart,
It is to have no trouble.
It is never to be fretted, or vexed,
or irritated, or sore, or disappointed.
It is to expect nothing,
to wonder at nothing that is done to me,
to feel nothing done against me.
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me,
and when I am blamed and despised.
It is to have a blessed home in myself,
where I can go in and shut the door,
and kneel to my Father in secret,
and be at peace as in a deep sea of calmness,
when all around and above is troubled.

Have a wonderful weekend!!!!!!

Friday, April 2, 2010

Guilt, You're FIRED!

A family member of one of our previous patients wrote this assignment during a Family Week.  I was moved by it and feel that is appropriate for everyone, in recovery, related to someone in recovery or a "normie." 

Enjoy!

A Clean House

Guilt, could you please come into my office?  Thank you.
Come on in.  Sit down.  Can I get you something? 
What I have to say is not going to be easy for either of us.
You have been a big part of Gerry, Inc. a long time.  During that time I have seen Gerry Inc. worry more, spend less time or no time with family, friends, wife and son.  Gerry, Inc. also notices that he doesn't spend time doing the things he used to love doing:  things like hunting, fishing, camping, and golfing.  You see Guilt, these things started to happen around the time you started working at Gerry, Inc.
I have thought about what you have done for Gerry, Inc. and decided to seek help on how to answer this question, and how I could solve my problem with you.  Everyone who I talked to said that Gerry, Inc. was better off before he brought you on board. This is a hard decision to make but one that has to be made.
Guilt, you are no longer needed at Gerry, Inc. 
I am sorry things didn't work out for you here at Gerry, Inc.  I am sure you won't have any problems finding somewhere else to work. 
Oh, by the way, I will be glad to give you a reference.

Before you leave, Guilt, would you please send in Blame.  I would like to talk to him.  Thanks!
Come on in Blame.  I have been waiting for you.  Can I get you something?
The reason why I wanted to talk to you is that I am in the process of doing some personal housekeeping at Gerry, Inc.  What I am finding is that you, Blame, are showing up everywhere.  Let me give you some examples of what I am finding.  I Blame my daughter for my unhappiness.  I Blame my wife for my daughter's problems.  I Blame my son for not being a better brother for his sister.  I Blame myself for my daughter's problems.  I Blame some of my daughter's associates for her problems. 
As you can see Blame, I Blame just about everything and everyone for my daughter's problems.  What I am seeing here, Blame, is that going around Blaming everyone and everything is not doing Gerry, Inc. any good at all.  Ever since you came on board with Gerry, Inc. things have been going down hill.  Today is the day this stops. 
Blame, I am going to have to let you go.  You are no longer needed at Gerry, Inc.  Good luck to you. 
I will be glad to give you a reference...

Friday, March 26, 2010

A Family Member's Testimony

I am a staff member at Hemet Valley Recovery Center since early 2008.  Before HVRC, I had very limited knowledge about addiction.  In my interview with the Director of Clinical Services, I identified my cousin as my only connection to the disease.  When I got the job at Hemet Valley Recovery Center I felt it was destiny and I was going to save my cousin's life! 

After working at HVRC for a while I began to see the disease more clearly.  I began to understand that it wasn't a matter of me being able to convince him to come to treatment - it was a matter of him being ready!  It was hard to sit in Treatment Planning meetings and hear about how other patients have struggled with their addiction and had to hit rock bottom before they were able to come into treatment.  I was very scared for my cousin because I was unsure how bad his rock bottom was going to be.  I knew that I just had to sit back and wait.  Family functions were difficult because I could see that he was under the influence and not the person that I had grown up with and loved.  Until one particular family function...

Thanksgiving 2009, my cousin passed out letters to every family member stating that this past time was going to be his last relapse - he had tried to detox by himself several times.  He had realized that he had never asked for help.  He was never ready enough to come to his family and admit what he was doing although everyone already knew.  When he finally came to us and admitted that he needed help and was appreciative for the support is when I knew that this was my opportunity.

I talked to him about treatment and together with the rest of our family got him admitted to HVRC.  Today is his 68th day clean and sober. I have my cousin back and could not be any prouder of his success.  In his coining ceremony, every one of his peers told him how blessed he was to have his parents, grandparents, aunt and uncle there to support him and how they were envious. 

So to all those family members that have lost hope and are worried that the end is nowhere in sight, stay hopeful and supportive as much as you can!!  No one can love you like your family can!!  Don't give up on them no matter how many times they have given up on themselves AND that person that you know and love is still in there dying to come out!

I am grateful to HVRC for not only changing my life but my entire family's life!

Friday, January 15, 2010

Letter of Hope from a Chronic Pain Patient

Divine Intervention

This is my story.  A journey that I wish no one. 

It started over twenty years ago with chronic back problems.  A pain pill here and there, each time stronger miligrams.  Little did I know what damage I was doing to myself and my family.

Well, it finally caught up to me.  I went in to the hospital for spinal surgery twice in one year.  The last surgery was like icing on a cake, it is where all my problems began:  My addiction to opiates.  They were available to me every ten minutes at my desire.  Oh yeah!  I was in pig heaven!  Feeling no pain at all!!  Little did I know what I was doing to myself. 

This really was just getting me going to my addiction.  After discharging from the hospital, I was given a prescription for oxycotin.  Wow! more pain killers!  Oh how dumb I was.  I thought I knew it all! 

After theirty four days of being in a haze, it was time to get professional help.  The next day I was a basketcase!  Oh God, what do I do?!?!  I had enough sense to call my EAP Program for help that I seriously needed!  I knew what I had to tod.  I had to get clean off of the drugs that had me a total mess. 

I was referred to Hemet Valley Recovery Center for a medical detoxification from all drugs that I was on for so long.  If it had not been for Hemet Valley Recovery Center, I probably be dead by now.  The doctors and staff were very awesome and very caring for my well being to get well and clean.  The staff got me through my darkest days. 

I am clean and sober now and with God's help, forever!!

Sincerely,

Steven M.


Monday, January 11, 2010

HVRC and Sage Retreat Featured on A&E's Intervention

Jackie's Story

Once known as the "prettiest girl in town," Jackie had a promising career as a radiation therapist. She became a wealthy doctor's wife, a country club member and a proud mother.

But Jackie was haunted by childhood traumas. She was devasted when her father dies when she was 13. And as an overweight adolescent, she was teased wth the nickname, "Fat Jack" and felt she was never as good as her pretty sister.

After Jackie's second pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, she turned to alcohol. She's had three failed stints in rehab and an ugly divorce. Prior to treatment, Jackie drank two bottles of wine a day.

Today, Jackie is 125 days clean and sober, "feeling good and is happy but would be happier if she had her daughter in her life." She currently resides in California.
This episode, filmed at our Hemet, CA faciity, will chronicle the treatment of patient Jackie.

Tune into A&E network on Monday, January 11th 9:00 pm PST (the episode will also re-run Tuesday, January 12th 1:00 am PST)